Feeling Less Alone Following a Move
Sometimes moving is wonderful, but sometimes it’s not. Moving isn’t always ideal.
You may feel alone during and after your move, but there are things you can do to help transition into your new life, and ways to find the support you need to get through even the most difficult of moves.
Here are some of the best ways to alleviate your feelings of loneliness following a move:
1. Talk to friends, supportive family members, clergy, or a therapist.
A move will inevitably increase your level of stress, but talking with people you trust about your feelings can go a long way in helping you make your move a positive one for you, even if it isn’t ideal. Be honest with them about what you’re afraid of, and you’ll soon feel a sense of relief.
2. Don’t be afraid to grieve.
Author Pauline Boss, in her remarkable bestseller ‘Ambiguous Loss’ points out that grief not only happens during a clear loss (such as death) but during one where the person or place is physically absent but emotionally present.
Grief during a move is natural and healthy, and giving yourself time to grieve is essential for your physical and emotional well-being.
3. Say a proper goodbye.
If you’re moving away from longtime friends, family members, or neighbors be sure to say goodbye in a way that’s appropriate to the situation and let them know how much you’ve valued having them living nearby.
In the digital world, it’s easier to be in touch by text message, email, or a video chat, but nothing beats spending real, heart-to-heart time in the presence of people you know and trust.
4. Connect with an ‘old’ community in your new location before you move.
Whether it’s a civic group that you’ve belonged to, a church or religious community, or even an interest group that you have been affiliated with, a move is an ideal time to make new friends who have the same interests as you while keeping a sense of being connected to your past.
If you can’t find a community, look on social media like Facebook, where you might find a branch nearby. Continuity can help you feel more at home.
5. Don’t be afraid of being outgoing.
The best way to feel more at home after a move is to be a little outgoing, even if you’re not inclined to be so.
If your new neighbors don’t knock on your door to welcome you, knock on theirs and introduce yourself. If you feel comfortable, have your neighbors over for coffee or dinner, and you may end up feeling more at ease in your new home than you ever felt in your old one.
6. Look online.
You have more options today than ever to connect with people in your new community.
Meetup is a good place to find people who have niche interests and a place where you might just make new friends. Look for area-specific groups on Facebook or other social media. As always, exercise caution when meeting strangers, either online or in person, and always meet in a group, never one-on-one.
Make Your Move a Positive One
Even if you feel all alone during your move, you can turn it into a positive experience by doing a few things before and after you relocate. A few small steps can help you feel more at ease and help you make new friends.
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